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So I’ve talked about the importance of self-worth, but how does one actually build their self-worth? I made a list of five ways to improve your self-worth. You can do one, or you can do them all. This is your life, your journey, do what feels right to you!

Invest time in things that bring you joy

We live in stressful times right now, and it is easy for us to get bogged down by the negativity in the world. THIS is the absolute necessary time to stop and take time for you. First, ask yourself what brings you joy? Then schedule a time to do it! Taking time for yourself is the foundation to building self-worth. Whether it is taking 5-10 minutes every day or taking one hour on the weekend, stop making excuses and schedule it.

Be nice to yourself

Show yourself some dang compassion! Remember, no one in life is perfect. When you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up over it. Stop criticizing yourself for being a human being! When I was younger, my parents would always say, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a best friend that came to you for support. And remember, the words you say to yourself matter!

Move your body

I will not sit here and preach the importance of exercise (don’t worry) because we already know that. When I say move your body, I mean it as an intervention. Sometimes we get stuck in our own thoughts and overwhelmed by our emotions. When this happens, it feels physically and mentally paralyzing. When you catch yourself in that cycle, physically get up and MOVE YOUR BODY. Maybe that looks like cleaning the house, going for a walk, going for a drive, stretching or yoga, organizing your closet, etc. Get creative with this one! This creates a shift in the negative energy, gets you out of negative thought loops, and triggers change.

Focus on what is in your control

When feeling helpless to life’s circumstances, stop to ask yourself what is in your control. I am notorious for asking my clients this question because you only ever have control over yourself. By asking that question, you empower yourself to take action. Understanding what is in your control drives change, and when you can change things in your life, you grow confident.

Celebrate the small wins

This is one of my favorite exercises to give my clients because it is easy and rewarding. Take a piece of paper or simply open a notepad in your phone and at the top type or write “Wins List.” At the end of every single day, document at least three “wins” for the day.
A win could be:
-Getting out of bed without snoozing the alarm
-Drinking more water during the day
-Exercising
-Taking deep breaths when you really wanted to throw something
-Walking away and taking a break during an argument with a partner
-Self-care time

And every so often, look at that list to remind yourself that you are a rockstar! Look at that list and see everything that you have done and be proud of yourself.

Pick one, do it, practice it, and be consistent! Building self-worth is something that takes time. Consistently investing in yourself will build your self-worth. Remember that you are worth it.